Like many of you, The Paulinator had some time off during the holidays and headed back to his home state to see his family. An eleven day vacation where the phrase “you can’t go home again” certainly comes into play. You see, I live a very out life while in New York, but when I head home to the country, and settle back into my parent’s McCain/Palin household my life becomes completely different. Things become very discrete and I must resort to sneaking out and reverting back to my high school ways. Well, high school involved me getting a blow job in the Barnes & Noble bathroom and getting together with college guys who also were convinced they were not gay, even though they just had a high school dude with his mouth around his dick. I won’t go back that specific route again!
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Whether you are gay or straight there comes a point when one must ask this question: Is this waiter/bartender/stripper flirting with me for real, or are they simply looking for a better tip? I will not say I am an expert at spotting the difference, because I have crashed and burned on occasion, but to me there seems to be something exciting about the art of the flirt within the service field. Read more »
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I don’t think every gay has the same dream, but at some point the idea of getting a sugar daddy has crossed their minds. Every now and then I catch an episode of The Girls Next Door on E! and I think how ridiculously lucky they are to live in that mansion and have everything pretty much taken care off by Heff. Now, who knows what happens in that bedroom behind closed doors, but I am pretty certain we can take a good guess. Recently I was hanging out at bar for an after work networking function. I was chatting with this guy who works in the same industry I do, so we were comparing notes and best practices. During our conversation another colleague, from a sister organization came over. We shall call him RJ. RJ is an older English gentleman who I have met before, but only under professional circumstances. Our first meeting was during the conference in Denver, which I wrote about previously, and no he was not my late night suitor that evening!
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When I first started exploring my sexuality I thought at some point (before I settle into a long lasting relationship), I would love a roll in the hay with: a hot celebrity, a well endowed porn star and of course a beefy New York City fireman. Well, recently I had the opportunity to cross one of these three off my list.
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One of the perks to my job is that I get to travel occasionally. I personally like the opportunity to see other cities instead of sitting at my desk, especially when I am visiting the city on someone else’s dime. While I love New York City and shed a tear almost every time I have to leave, I enjoy seeing what is out there is other cities in regards to gay life. This past year I traveled to Houston, Denver and Nashville and in each city I was able to locate a fun gay bar and even had some hot hotel sex!
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As much as I talk about random hook ups and having sex frequently with ‘first name only’ guys, deep down I like to consider myself a hopeless romantic. I was not always on the quest for Mister Right. As you may remember I only recently came out to myself and my friends. While Mr. Right Now has always played a part in my life I was truly hoping to find a cute Miss Right. A woman I could settle down with, marry and start a family! I had this idea of the perfect family and truly believed that in order to find happiness I needed to follow this specific path.
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It’s sometimes said that, in New York City, you can have a good job, a good apartment and a good companion—but not all three at the same time.
This saying appeared on Sex and the City and while I don’t know if it is an absolute, I certainly know it to be true in my own life. I have yet to experience all three and currently I only have one, hence the reason I’ve been MIA for a week now.
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As much as I boast about an active, healthy sex life, I have never been as in control of it as I was this past weekend. Occasionally, I will have a drink, or two, or several and become a little freer with my body, but this weekend, as I was in the middle of packing for my upcoming move, I got the itch. I figured there were two options and I was totally sick of playing it solo, so I bit the bullet and sent a text to a guy I hooked up with in the neighborhood. All it said was, “I’m horny, are you around?” It was definitely a booty text and I was not ashamed of it either.
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There is a good reason why I liked the name ‘Paulinator’ when suggested titles were being thrown around prior to writing for the Neighborbee Blog. It has a wonderful suggested meaning that simply put, describes me perfectly.
I have said it before, I enjoy sex. I know that many people feel differently about this subject, but if there is one thing that we should all agree on, it is that you should know your health status if you have an active sex life. This is why I make it a point to play safe. When searching Manhunt or Adam4Adam for an evening hookup, I do my best to search for “HIV-” individuals and there is always protection. As cheesy as it is, ‘no glove, no love!’
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Ever since I was a young lad, I always seemed to develop a crush on those that were seemingly unavailable to me. You know, basically I was drawn to the Regina George types, and while I’ve seen the error of my ways and tried to improve upon this, I will say I still find myself attracted to what I can not have.
Take one of my friends, whom we will call JB. JB is in a relationship and has been for quite some time. I like his boyfriend, though I tend to hang out with JB a bit more than with his partner. One night, after several drinks, JB and I ended up meeting up and heading back to my place.
I’ve totally had a crush on JB (obviously since he is attached) and was completely beside myself when the events of this night unfolded. I’m not big on the term ‘homewrecker’ and I would absolutely be devastated if I was in a non-open relationship and my boyfriend hooked up with someone else. I definitely don’t regret that night, but I have to say it was incredibly awkward the next time I saw JB’s boyfriend. Thankfully, no one would have expected little ol’ me to do something like that! Moving on…
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regina george,
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