The Paulinator: Why Isn’t He Texting Back?

I will be the first to admit, I have this tendency to become almost instantly obsessed with a guy. Today, with web sites like Facebook and Myspace, I can go from normal guy to psycho stalker in no time flat.  While I can probably give you a half dozen examples of this, I thought I would continue with my current ‘obsession.’

Following my evening with this guy, who we shall for purposes of this story call CJ, I made it very clear I was incredibly interested in him.  Typically I fall for guys who I don’t sleep with right away and as I mentioned before CJ and I didn’t have sex, so true to form, I couldn’t get him off my mind.

We exchanged numbers, said we should definitely meet up again sometime and then he left. I promised myself I would not obsess this time and handle the situation maturely, so I only sent one text to him that afternoon, letting him know I had a great time and couldn’t wait to see him again.

I thought it was a bit odd I didn’t hear anything from him right away, but he did mention his blackberry’s battery had died in the middle of the night, so I realized my text will mostly likely show up once he had power back.

It only took me a day to find him on Facebook and sadly it took him almost two days to accept my friend request. Talk about high levels of stress. No lie… I could have Rachel Zoe D.I.E.D!! Well, I think the kicker came the Friday following our evening rendezvous. I was totally freaking out that this guy I liked seemed for the most part to be blowing me off. I don’t know the rules. I don’t know how the dating world works. There aren’t any clear cut answers. So I pretty much expect everyone else to think the same way I do… texts should be answered almost immediately, messages via Facebook shouldn’t remain unread for more than a few hours and people should be straight forward and say whether they are interested or not.

Last I checked, we are adults and should be able to handle these simple things. So, the Friday following I pretty much freaked out on my office mate who witnessed my obsession increase to the point where I was yelling at the computer screen and CJ’s Facebook page! By the end of the business day, sadly, I had given up on the idea of CJ and I. It was definitely time to go work out these emotions at the gym, run like wind on a treadmill and potentially find some hot anonymous dude to hook up with afterwards!

I left the locker room ready to run, and as I headed down the stairs, coming up the stairs was none other than CJ! We hugged, talked for a moment and he apologized for not getting back to me sooner- he apparently started a new job and is quite busy with the training.  Well, now we are back at square one, but at least I know he felt bad for not staying in touch better.

Since our gym encounter, we have actually had a few text message exchanges (YEAH!) though I still have some unanswered questions I’ve posed. For example, I’ve asked if he would like to go out on an old fashion date, possibly dinner or a drink? Essentially, there is no progress to report, but I did learn a valuable lesson: to simply let fate take its course as things tend to happen the way fate has planned…  oh whatever… I still say this whole dating (or possibility of dating) thing is bananas!

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